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Female Masturbation Has A New Name & Attitude!

Women how will changing the name of Female Masturbation to Klittra change your perspective on exploring your sensual self? Throughout the decade’s masturbation, particularly Female Masturbation, has been thought of as taboo, with horrifying consequences. As little girl or a young woman you were not taught to explore your sensual self, especially for your personal pleasure. Equally stunning, you were not given the proper name for your “private parts,” the vulva.”

Your private parts should not be private to you, hummmm!  They should only be as private as you decide them to be. To change the perspective of what you have learned about Female Masturbation, and your private parts from your mom’s, church, temple, mosque, or your friends ideals, you are being encouraged to empower yourself to explore your outer and inner parts. By a change in name to Klittra, to catapult your way into destroying faulty programing and celebrate your personal sensual self.

Let’s blow up the term masturbation and use the unofficial Swedish name of “Klittra.” Klittra combines the words “clitoris” (klitoris) and “glitter” (glittra) in an effort to encourage a positive outlook on women’s sexual pleasure. Tell me what you think! Share how you believe changing the term of Female Masturbation to klittra changes your view on exploring your sensual self!

Todd Malloy is a relationship and sex therapist in in private practice in Charlotte, N.C. and on the staff of the University of Michigan Sexual Health Certificate Program (UMSHCP), which provides comprehensive education and training to professionals interested in the field of sexual health. For more information on enabling your inner power to celebrate and live an empowered life, visit www.ipcctr.com or call (704) 937-2286.

Being a Great Lover Starts with Self Awareness and Personal Exploration

Sexuality is influenced by the many components that make you who you are. It is not just a physical thing, mental, emotional, and social factors all play a role in intimate connections. These components are influenced by

  • Identity, culture, ethnicity,
  • personal beliefs, family influences, finances,
  • body awareness, social environment,
  • knowledge about sexuality and prior sexual and intimate experiences

The power of Media and Societal influences can’t be dismissed. They perpetuate stigmas that tell men that they are to have four (4) hour erections. These same entities send the message that the primary role of women is to provide (and not receive) pleasure.

There are so many voices, sights and sounds that attempt to define/influence /and direct your sensuality. It is your intimate knowledge of self that creates the best loving and sensual experience, alone or with a partner.

Think about this, the clothes/products you purchase, food you prepare, and the car you drive come with instructions which teach you how to take best care of them and receive the greatest value from them. How are you communicating your inner and outer sensual desires to inform and educate your partner? Asking yourself the following questions can assist in your quest to explore and partake in all of your favor?

  • Each area of the body responds differently and requires a different touch experience for maximum pleasure, what are they for me?
  • How does it feel to be touched on each area of my body? Explore and acknowledge if touching certain areas makes you feel good, bad, or indifferent
  • How do I like to be touched to be aroused?

What is the best pressure and motion that stimulates the most tantalizing experience? To be the Great Lover you desire start with exploring and knowing your most intimate self. Your comfort with this will make it possible to explore and openly receive how your partner would respond to the same set of questions. Self-discovery and communication will put you well on the way to experiencing the freedom and safety of explosive intimacy.

Todd Malloy, MA, LMFT, CST is a relationship and sex therapist in in private practice in Charlotte, N.C. and on the teaching staff of the University of Michigan Sexual Health Certificate Program (UMSHCP), For more information on enabling your inner power to celebrate and live an empowered life, visit www.ipcctr.com or call (704) 937-2286.